five things i am unlearning as i learn to mother
since becoming a mother in january, everything seems to be shifting both internally and on the outside//
my soft edges have become softer as i lean into being a comfort to my daughter and as i learn over and again that slowing down is sometimes necessary.
my heart that once was pulled in every direction feels more central and focused on those i hold closest.
i am learning what it means to be more and do less. i am learning to embrace myself more as i hold tightly to this new person i get to call mine.
as i learn, shift, grow and become, i am also unlearning things in this change//
one // i am unlearning that my value is only found in what i produce and what i do for those around me.
doing and producing are not the main things that bring value to who i am. I enjoy creating and sharing who i am in unique ways and my value is so much deeper than what i share publicly.
two // i am unlearning that i am only as valuable as what others see and say.
i am more than the words and encouragements from others. i am worth more than words can contain. appreciation and gratitude are things i am honored to receive when they are shared and there are no words that can fully grasp the wholeness of me whether positive or other.
three // i am unlearning that a gentle and quiet spirit means not speaking up and sharing what i am feeling.
i am gentle and soft and i love that piece of myself. i am also honest and have things to share. my words may not have the same gentleness and may not be received the way i intend and i still deserve to speak up and advocate for myself in words and without.